CS World – Emotional Intelligence
Stay In The Cool. It’s on you if you let people around you launch your nuclear buttons and you end up acting like Kanye, Chris, or Charlie. It means you need to work on self-regulation. It’s an important muscle of emotional intelligence.
To diagnose where you’re going wrong and fix it, ask yourself some key questions: What in your behavior is preventing you from doing what’s necessary to accomplish your goals? What behavior do you need to stop? What do you need to do more of? What is keeping you from doing these things now? Then commit to doing what it takes, power on, and go through the pain to fix the problem.
Speak Truth To Power. Honesty goes a long way. Stay true to the people around you. The truth will always set you free. It is less stressful than having to worry about lies and remembering the lies. If you’re in business ditch the sales pitch and be honest and genuine with your customers. Let them know what’s up. Be direct, open, honorable. Pay close attention to how customers are feeling. Acknowledge that you’ve heard them. Make time for them. Prioritize them. Let them know how you feel about them. Tell them what you value about them. Don’t take anything for granted. Ever.
While not ignoring the bad news, emotionally intelligent people have made a conscious decision to not spend a lot of time and ENERGY FOCUSING on problems. Rather, they look at what is positive in a situation and look for solutions to a problem. These people focus on what they are able to do and that which is within their control.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
People with a lot of emotional intelligence don’t spend a lot of time listening to complainers and tend to avoid negative people. They are aware negative people are an ENERGY DRAIN and are not willing to let others exhaust their vitality. Because they always look for solutions and the positive in situations, negative people quickly learn to avoid positive people as misery loves company.
Emotionally intelligent people spend time with others that are positive and look upon the bright side of life. You can spot these folks as they tend to smile and laugh a great deal and attract other positive people. Their warmth, openness, and caring attitude leads others look upon them as more trustworthy.
SET BOUNDARIES AND BE ASSERTIVE WHEN NECESSARY
Do not make needless enemies. The response to situations, in which there may be conflict, is measured, not inflated, and managed appropriately to the situation. Think before speaking and give yourself time to calm down if your emotions appear to become overwhelming. High EI people guard their time and commitments and know when they need to say no.
PRACTICE FORWARD THINKING AND BE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE PAST
People with high EI are too busy thinking of possibilities in the future to spend a lot of time dwelling upon things that didn’t work out in the past. So take the learning from your past failures and apply it to your actions in the future. Never see failure as permanent or a personal reflection of yourself.
LOOK FOR WAYS TO MAKE LIFE MORE FUN, HAPPY, AND INTERESTING
Whether it is in your workplace, at home, or with friends, high EI people know what makes them happy and look for opportunities to expand the enjoyment. They receive pleasure and satisfaction from seeing others happy and fulfilled, and do whatever they can to brighten someone else’s day.
CHOOSE HOW TO EXPEND YOUR ENERGY WISELY
High EI folks don’t hold on to anger over how others have treated them rather use the incident to create awareness of how to not let it happen again. “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me,” is the motto. While they move on and forgive, they don’t forget and are unlikely to be taken advantage of again in the same set of circumstances.
CONTINUALLY LEARN AND GROW TOWARDS INDEPENDENCE
Highly emotionally intelligent people are lifelong learners, constantly growing, evolving, open to new ideas, and always willing to learn from others. Being critical thinkers, they are open to changing their minds if someone presents an idea that is a better fit. While they are open to ideas from others, and continuously gathering new information, they ultimately trust themselves and their own judgment to make the best decision for themselves.
SO DO YOUR LIFE A FAVOR AND BE EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT!